Today's events~

[candyland]

It's not even ten after ten as I start this entry, and I'm nodding off. Whew...but I guess that's what happens when you get up at twenty after five in the morning and are on the road at ten to six x_x It was a long day, so this is going to be the abridged version of my day's events before I pass out.

Neither of my students made All-State, which is fine. It's a good experience, though. And I had a good time having lunch with one of them. She's funny, especially when she's got caffeine in her system XD But I did get a TON of knitting done, which is awesome.

I came home and fixed dinner and watched episodes one through five of Storm Hawks. I think I'm seriously in love with that show ~♥♥♥ And now I'm watching some Muppets before I go to bed.

And...this is sort of embarrassing to post here, but I think I need to.



I think most people have a couple of things that you shouldn't say to them, even in a joking manner. I'm going to tell you one of my big ones, and I ask that you please not do this to me.

If we are having a silly, light-hearted argument or talking about something...never, ever threaten to de-friend me or not speak to me again if I don't agree with your viewpoint or if I don't want to do something you're asking me to do.

I will cry. Seriously--and it will take me a while to calm down totally.

I guess you could call them abandonment issues of a very specific nature. I'm terrified of losing friends for stupid reasons--yes, this does tie into some things that have happened to me in the past. I won't go into all the gory details, but...it's a very deep-seated fear.

So...telling me that you'll de-friend me if I don't say something or agree with something hits that fear right on the head. And I don't react well at all. In some ways, it's worse over chat because I can't tell if a person is joking or not. Even jokingly...I don't handle it well.

Is this stupid? Am I overreacting to what probably amounts to nothing? Most likely. But...it's something I can't really control. And if an exchange of this nature occurs and I tell you that it's not funny...I'm not kidding.

Comments

[ytak.livejournal.com]

That threat isn't funny even when delivered jokingly. I've had two people tell me they didn't want to be my friend anymore... to my face. I know where you are coming from.

[insaneladybug.livejournal.com]

**hugs.** I don't think it's stupid or overreacting at all. I have a similar deep-rooted fear, and it causes me to worry sometimes that I won't be liked anymore if my viewpoint is different from someone else's. I try to overcome it, but I can never get over it entirely. When you feel a certain way because of the past, it's really hard to not keep feeling that way.

[chakrus.livejournal.com]

It sounds like you had a good day, even if it was tiring.

And, don't worry, I dont' threaten to defriend people, I just say it when I do it. It's not usually over anything petty anymore, and I can tell you if I -ever- defriend you (which is, very very unlikely) the reason would probably be because we don't talk or anything anymore. Then again, if I did often that my AIM wouldn't have 6/52 online so yaknow, unless you do something that would upset me as that upsets you I don't see that ever happening anytime in the next 5/6 years? XP

I myself have a few subjects I'm like that with, Rape is one of those things which I've constantly irked how casually the word is said sometimes, but this is long enough as it is. If you bring one of those subjects up I'll be sure to tell you (although it is unlikely they'll be brought up)

[shubbimama.livejournal.com]

I think it's good you wrote that about de-friending.
(not that I (or anyone else, I guess) would de-friend you!!!) But really, you tell how you feel about it, and now we know, that you won't find it funny, even if we joke about it. But I understand you, really! You can't see whether they're joking or not, and I've sometimes been in a situation, where I don't know, if they're joking or what.

So... My pink sweater is moved ;_; It was good you wrote that, really really!

[keikeiaznqueen.livejournal.com]

When someone gets mad at me, I get really scared too, so I don't think you're overreacting. It's not nice to threaten to de-friend or abandon someone, anyway, for just a little disagreement over things (and even as a joke, it's not very funny!), so yeah, it's totally okay to be scared or affected by this because frankly, I'm a bit like you too. *hugs*

[alena_s_anigor.livejournal.com]

I understand you perfectly. It really hurts when one of your friends suddenly tells you they don't want you as a friend anymore, even more so if the reason is something stupid as disagreement about something or someone.

Further more, I respect other people's opinion and even if I disagree with them, I sure as hell won't stop talking to them or abandon them, especially if they're my friends.

So, don't worry about it. ♥

[rasgos-76.livejournal.com]

-_-'

*feels really guilty now*

[rasgos-76.livejournal.com]

PS:

We're gonna have to talk about misundertandings next time (you gonna be online today? or should I text *might be out later*)

There is something I have to explain to you about yesterday ^^" that I don't think you got...>> Granted we haven't been friends long, So I think you got the wrong thing yesterday

which still makes me feel really bad, it's gonna haunt me all day

and now everyone knows -_-'

[candy--chan.livejournal.com]

I'm online right now, though I'm sort of wandering all over the place today, and I can hear my cell phone ping from anywhere in my apartment. So either works. We talk. We be okay. Life eez good.

*hugs* It's okay. I still luff you ~♥♥♥

[gomath02.livejournal.com]

Glad you had a good day yesterday... Miss you!

[kaitodoushi.livejournal.com]

Heh, yeah, I have things you shouldn't say to me either. I can think of them when I hear them -_-;

I haven't heard that threat, actually. Not that I talk to people much these days DX. I dunno, the only threats I give or recieve usually include bonking XD.