On the outside looking in...

[candyland]

At the beginning of the year, my best friend got a boyfriend...and I pretty much got dropped. Okay, okay, I can handle that...except that I feel like I then got dropped by everybody. I actually asked one of said friends why I never got invited to do anything anymore, and his enlightening response was, "Oh. I thought you were on duty." Bullshit, Steve--you never asked.

It was suggested to me that I should just invite myself along. Well, I was raised with the belief that that was incredibly rude. And I've had enough experiences with people inviting themselves along and overstaying their welcomes that I know it's annoying. I don't want to be that person.

Plus, on the increasingly rare occasions when I do get invited to tag along on something, or when I run into people somewhere...I always feel like the extra wheel or whatever the saying is. I'm on the outside, screaming and trying to get in, and all I'm getting is a sore throat. It's all inside jokes, conversation floating around me that I'm not encouraged to participate in, or my all-time favorite, when someone says something and says either "You should have been there" or "You had to be there." You know what? I would have LOVED to be there--let me know when stuff's going on once in a while.

Bottom line: I'm depressed, and I'm lonely. It's not just this, but a whole bunch of little things adding up. And I really don't know how to reach out. If there's a reason, I just want to know why. Someone, anyone, please--enlighten me. I don't think that's really asking too much. If it is, then I'm sorry.

Comments

[kaitodoushi.livejournal.com]

I don't know, either. Because that's the story of my life. High school. College. I'm always that person. If I knew how to fix it, I would. Of course, I don't think they have reasons for not inviting me anywhere, they just don't. Plus I like have no friends here to invite me to do something in the first place.

[ulfstormbringer.livejournal.com]

There is never any good way of dealing with it. I wish you the best of luck.
Someday your prince will come. And I will make sure he stops to take notice for a very resonable fee.

[soc_puppet]

I'd probably go with something simple, like asking your friends to let you know when they're planning to do stuff.

[abarero]

I guess I've always been more of the loner-type myself so I know I finally got to the point where I was kinda glad no one invited me along. Because if they did, then I would have to come up with some lie or excuse as to why I didn't want to go. But yes, I agree with the others above- ask them to let you know what's up. Or if that seems awkward, try setting up something yourself. Just like "Hey, I'm gonna do this on Friday- what are you guys up to?" type thing.

But either way, if you need a listening ear- you can usually find me on AIM under TailFluffGirl. Never hesitate to drop by and talk, I'm a good listener ^^

Helloo CALL ME:P

[vixieangel.livejournal.com]

Well maybe if you called me back cause I called your cell phone:P I am just joking with you hon. I know how you feel very much so. I feel the same way when I am here and now even more when I visit BV. I miss doing things with...and going out on Sunday!!!!!!!!!! I so miss that:P My only advice cause I feel this way alot is create your own story. No not type a fic:P (I was thining that to just as i typed it) I mean make your own fun. Do something completely different that you have always wanted to do. Then tell people about it. It they dont get it laugh and say you so had to be there. Once you start finding different things to do for fun with you people will want to hang with you or ask you want you are doing more then relying on so called job of the school:P Good Luck Hon

[writergurl.livejournal.com]

next time you're in town, let me know! It seems like I don't have many friends who are in town anymore...and I never know when you're in town until your back at BV and write in your LJ that you were in town! Granted, I'm not going to have a phone after Saturday for a little while. Carrie has no landline, and my cell phone is temporarily disconnected. Something about them wanting me to PAY them...

but ya know...if you wanna do something when you're in town, send me an email when you think you'll be here (I'll still check my email and whatnot). We'll go China Oneing or maybe just window-shopping if we're broke (which is often the case with me lately)!

[spirit-sage-333.livejournal.com]

I didnt drop you! And ill assume you were chatting about me ;) jk. Come live with me :) You will always be welcome and you will always be there, none of that "you shoulda been there buisness". Well...cept for the bedroom, you shouldnt be there.....well....maybe with a camera..... and riding crop :D